As I become more observant and aware, I see things I wasn’t consciously aware of before. One thing that came to my attention recently was how many people I know who are married or long-term committed, and one or both of them has completely let themselves go. What made it stand out even more is the fact that I seem to be the only one who is looking better than I did before. I’m getting better and the rest are kind of falling apart.
I say that with no conceit. Honestly, I think it’s sad. It bothers me to see friends and family who have just gone downhill since they committed to another person. It’s mostly the women, but some of the men too. One couple I know has gained no less than 50 pounds each. the ladies don’t fix their hair or dress nice anymore. Their bodies are not what they used to be. And more than one of the men has a bit of “dunlap” disorder.
I know that many people feel as if they can stop trying once they’ve “caught” their mate. The dating game is over and they can relax. But I’m guessing they’re forgetting some important things. 1) If you let yourself go, your partner could lose interest and begin looking elsewhere. If you don’t care about yourself, why should they care about you? 2) You should always want to be your best. Whether you’re still looking for Mr./Mrs. right or you have them already, you should always want to be your best self, and that involves taking care of your appearance.
Now, I dress more comfortably and wear less makeup than I did in the early years, but I haven’t let myself go. I still take care of my hair and skin, I still dress nicely for no reason sometimes, I’ve lost weight and I’m in better shape than I used to be, and working for even more improvement. I got a man, but I want to keep him. More than that, I want to stay looking good just for my own health and happiness.
Some of you may be going to that place of thinking that there are things that matter more in a relationship than looks, and you’re right. However, being attracted to your partner is important. Taking care of yourself at all times shows that you have respect for yourself, your partner and your relationship. It’s all part of the package. There’s really no excuse for ever letting yourself go, and being involved surely doesn’t qualify as a good reason.